5 Things I’m learning About Myself in My 20s (That No One warned me about)

When I imagined my 20s, I thought everything would make sense immediately. Now that I’m here, I see it doesn’t work that way.

Instead, it's been a time of learning and chaos, but through it all, I’m becoming stronger. Of course, our parents try to give us some advice, but most things we have to experience ourselves. So today, I’m sharing five things I’m learning about myself (in case you need a reminder as well).

Money Management is a daily thing, not a one-time fix.

As a teen, I thought that as long as you had a job, you had control over your money. Not!

The reality is that money management is a daily mindset, not just a one-time thing. Saving, budgeting, saying no to impulse purchases, and prolonging checks are constant behaviors. As an only child, I've struggled with this task as it’s hard to tell myself no for the greater good :). Everyone says, “You have to be good with money,” but what does that entail?

I’m learning that being financially stable isn’t a number; it’s the feeling you get from making futuristic choices, even if it’s saying no to McDonald’s.

Lesson: Be patient with yourself. Stay consistent.

It’s Okay to be Alone in Your Own Space.

Growing up, I was used to being alone, so of course, as a teenager, I wanted all the friends in the world. Now I’m trying to be comfortable in my own space, and it’s scary, but it’s also peaceful. It’s learning to enjoy your own company and finding peace in the quiet. Be it painting at the park, grabbing coffee, or traveling alone. I’m learning that validation can come from within as well.

Lesson: When you learn to enjoy your own company, every other relationship becomes healthier.

Setting Boundaries Isn’t Mean. It’s Necessary.

I thought protecting your space meant I was a bad person. Sometimes you have to say “no” for your wellbeing. Boundaries protect your time, space, and mental health. You should not apologize for setting them as they should be respected.

Lesson: The people who respect your boundaries are the ones who deserve to be in your space.

The Future Begins Where the Past Ends.

This has been the hardest one to achieve. Replaying the past, missing old times, and saying “what if” in my head. I’m realizing that living in the past puts a pause on my future. Everyone always says “Healing begins when you let go” but it’s really not that simple. Sometimes healing includes forgiving yourself in addition to others. It means giving yourself a chance to start a new dream every day you wake up. It’s not simply about hurt and emotions.

Lesson: Healing is not linear and that’s okay.

You Still have Time After your 20s.

Your 20s are not the end of your story its just the beginning. Its the time to explore, make mistakes, and learning what you like and don’t like. Its okay to not have it all together right away.

Lesson: It takes time for every project to reveal its beauty.

Final Thoughts

If you’re feeling lost, overwhelmed, excited, terrified — or all of the above — you’re not alone.
These years are confusing and chaotic and full of potential. They’re meant to stretch you, challenge you, and help you discover who you are when no one’s telling you who you should be.

Thanks for walking through this messy, beautiful season with me. What’s something you’re learning about yourself right now? Drop it in the comments — I'd love to hear!